05 September 2018

This past month in the life of Gabrielle has been quite eventful. I’m officially in a loving lesbian relationship now and couldn’t be happier. I’ve held off on talking about my online relationship turned real-thing for sometime now but I think it’s about time I let the cat out of the bag (I think that’s how the expression goes). About 4 months ago this Hispanic girl from Chile sent me a DM and we started talking. During the month of August she came to South Africa to meet me in person; the first time we saw each other for real was extremely nerve racking as you can imagine. She walked out through the giant airport gates and we hugged for the very first time, she didn’t take too long to let me know how hot she thought I was and we had our first kiss in the car at the parking lot. 

I had never been with a lesbian before, throughout my life I have dated straight women and on the odd occasion I’ve slept with a handful of guys. I’ve never really felt that I could connect with guys strongly enough to form a relationship though. This was my first taste of being with a girl who wasn’t afraid to take charge, a girl who would slap me in the ass while I cooked her breakfast and would whisper in my ear “washita rica” which is a Chilean phrase that means something like “sexy girl”. At first I didn’t know how to respond to all of this; it was all very new coming from a woman, but it is safe to say that I loved every minute of it. I took sometime off work to be with her and we had a magical month together filled with ups and downs, crazy fights and amazing love making. For the first time in my life I was with someone who wasn’t afraid to hold my hand in public. Most of the time that we where out in public people would not stop staring at me / us, they would stare and whisper to their friends. This kind of attention has become somewhat of a normality in my life and it would at times bother her. She has mixed feelings about walking hand in hand with a trans woman in public, on the one hand she told me the attention made her feel important and on the other hand she would get really mad sometimes and the swearing wouldn’t stop. 

The homophobia in this country (South Africa) is still really evident and this has been the root of some of our arguments but in the end we came to the conclusion that people will stare and they will make their comments, the world can be cruel and uneducated at times but we don’t care. That type of shit won’t make us stop loving each other, it won’t make us live in hiding; it can actually be kind of fun at times knowing that you have the power to capture the attention of strangers so easily. We went on a multitude of excursions to lion parks, mountain peaks, beaches and clubs. It was undoubtedly one of the best months of my life. The month ended and she went back to Chile; it was then that she told me that she didn’t feel attraction towards women with vaginas anymore. I’m not sure how to take that and feel that that is something that needs to be unpacked at some point. What I do know is that she loves me, that I love her and that the next step is for her to move in with me permanently and introduce me to her 1 year old baby girl who I’ve been dying to meet; that’s all for now folks.